Dear Friends,
this is no epitah nor an obituary to the eternal love story which spawned one of the best movies in indian history!!!
Statutory warning :
For all those who are already in Love, or are in the process of falling in love or are thinking of falling in love, well this might not be their cup of Tea. so please think before u read Ahead. then dont tell me i didnt warn you [:)]
What prompted me to write this , i dont know. What prompted me to think about this, i dont know. But, what i do know is that there was once a Saleem and an Anarkali.There was once a love story so engimatic, so pure that people used to swear by it.And today, we attempt to make cheap remakes of it. how many of them go on to become blockbusters ?? i dont know.
Well , let us find out the reason for this ever increasing trend that is hitting the youngsters of this country.We live in a society which has been divided on lines.Lines which can vary from being IT/Non IT , infosys/non infosys
IIT /Non-IIT , modern/traditional , metro/non metro ..... to cut the story short, we have come up with a complicated Matrix,one which is no lesser than a maze.
The beauty of this matrix is... that each of us occupy a limited niche in it. And we prefer to have access within that matrix itself.Both the sexes have come to a state of apprehension, where they feel that the resources are fast depleting in their own territory, so instead of waiting like a fool, why not jump on to the bandwagon?
The greatest quantum leap for humanity in india is "Womens' Independence". With a booming IT and services sector, women in india have become independent , atleast economically. This is another important factor . Gone are the days when women were supposed to be the shadow of their spouses. They can think and act independently. They are assoicating more with their identity more than ever.A few days back i was talking to one of my friend. she was saying that women now a days look forward to a relation where they dont have to change much,a family which would accept as what they are.Its only human to take this as an incentive when thinking of going into a relationship.And Love of course is the answer.
Dependency.. we need someone to go to shop,to go to movies, to go to any Damn place on the earth except the Loo... we have created a web of dependency . Its a time when everyone feels they need someone to talk to, to share things.I would credit all office 'love' to such dependencies. Maybe most of the college love affairs too.Maybe every "love" has a dependency.. or maybe am wrong friends, is dependency Love???
I have yet not come to my favourite topic . yes 'peer pressure' . This is the single biggest reason for people doing most of the things they dont want to do. The same applies here too.. whereever i go, whatever i do, i see my friends, strangers all going around with their partner.. its like love is on the streets... the frustration builds within.. every 'single' person wants to be in love.. everyone wants to live in that Utopia...
I would rather say .. they are all in love with the idea of being in love..
Well, i think ... were love affairs always like this?? were these the paramters that guided or ruled peoples' minds. i dont know .. i really dont know.. because neither am i a historian nor have i lived for 300 years. but certainly , in the new age .. love affairs are more of a "convenience" rather than a "reality".
My dear friends .. this is no ODE to Saleem and anarkali.. nor am i degrading the "current" love... nor am i any different from all of those millions of youngsters out there..
I just wish there were more of Saleem's and Anarkali's..............
10 comments:
What you refer to as dependency is actually human nature or for that matter nature of every living being. It is all but natural to crave for a partner when you reach an age where friends aren't enough to share all of your emotions. But , and this one is a big 'but', what most people seem to do is compromise on strength of their feelings or the lack of it. They aren't to be blamed as everyone is afraid of the tallest tree story and end up being happy if not extremely so and for those who do have the patience end up being extremely happy
Nice post Saand.... hope you keep blogging more often.
Peer Pressure - True to a good extent. You succumb to pressure easily ( and faster when the end result is fleetingly sweet !!! ).
Dependency - Don't you think Saleem and Anarkali were dependent on each other to spend their evenings together ? Guess dependency comes in a hidden form in the package.
and believe me, all the LOVERS will call you a LOSER and welcome to my club !!!
Well Sidharth,
i guess u have taken it too pesonally. i havent said anything about what kind of relationship i want or need to be in or for that matter might have been in. All i listed down were a few points i felt the need for people gettign together , and i feel there's nothing wrong in that either.After all man looks out for his well being and happiness in every action, maybe almost every action .
Well ramakrishna,
Well dependency to the extent where u dont lose ure 'identity' is sane.Of course relations cannot be there without dependencies.
Well said Arjun..My question is..Have you really thought over this in depth? Do you think dependency is love in all the cases? It can be other ways as well..I feel "Love leads to dependency" You get hooked and totally dependent on the person with whom you are deeply in love with. This eventually leads to the elimination of "I" & "You", "My" & "Your" from the relationship. This is what I call a true bond! Then I dont think any of the partner would brood over losing his/her "individual" identity. Then their identity will be from the togetherness..I dont know how many saleems and anaarkalis are there in present times..But I do believe, that you still will find true love and bonds atleast one in every 100 couples! I just hope..this figure goes up instead of the continuous decline with times!
Necessity is the mother of all dependencies, when god wanted to fight the Satan he made man, it is said that he created the creature we are in his form and also left us a trail of other dependencies like Saleem and Anarkali....every relationship is given a meaning through dependency and the mother of all those is exemplified through the Fight of God and Satan!!!!
nice post!
a very elite way of putting forth that "mesobrain damage" is the prognosis for people in love or on verge of loving the thought to be in love.by the way, i presume that u remain unaffected by the virus,use a better anti-virus healer if u do get the infection!
and wonder why akbar graced anarkali to the confines of a dead retaioning wall in the basement or dungeons? may be just to reincarnate her at the right time for a right guy un mileu de confusions avec d'elegance!keep up the research and keep posting more of such peudokus!
what about lust?
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